Get Live.... Focker

I have had the experience of having a great lover.   A partner that truly understands that there are two people having sex and took my feelings and wants into consideration.  I have a friend that recently told me that she doesn't like oral sex..  What the Fu... , is what I was thinking..  She said she has never been with a man that has done it right.  I am so sad for her!  Oral sex is such a beautiful thing especially when the partner knows what they are doing. Then we started talking about what I call doing the Elvis…  her friend said that he wanted to make her legs shake and she had no clue to what that meant.  She wanted to know if there was something in the store that she could buy to prepare herself for it, how precious!    Poor girl…. 

 

Either she has been with selfish lovers that only looked out for self or they just didn’t know what they were doing.  I have been with someone like that as well and it was the worst.  There is nothing worse than a selfish lover.  I am used to being with someone that wants to satisfy me just as bad as I want to satisfy them which makes the act of sex great,  but the selfish lover just wants to get off and doesn't really care or then again  maybe he just doesn't know what to do.   The partner I was with was adequate, it was sort of like Mista from the Color Purple when he would get on her and do his business, and well that is how I felt sometimes.  It just wasn’t always enjoyable but I liked him unfortunately.  At times I did wish I had one of those wrap it up boxes Dave Chapelle advertised on his show.  I would have put that box to some serious use....

 

 

A good male friend of mine said that women are not bad in bed, if a woman is bad in bed then it is the man’s fault and I agree with him. Women go along with the vibe of things.  I think men get caught up into watching how the porn stars have sex and try to do everything Mr. Marcus is doing but in 5 minutes or less.  That can be frustrating.   Women are not asking that you become porn stars, we want tantric sex.  There are books you can read or classes you can take.  On I Love New York, she had a tantric teacher come in on a date and that actually seemed like a fun date, well fun if you are into that person you are with.

 

 

I know that people know when they are bad in bed but then again we women pretend so  much… How would they know if we are oohing and aahing and not meaning any of it?  If we really like the guy we should just tell them what to do. I ask my lover what he likes and I also look at his facial expressions too.   Constructive sex criticism will only make you better in bed and shouldn’t everyone want to be the best focker ever…   I know I do.